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The Strange Situation

“Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space” (Ainsworth, 1973; Bowlby, 1969)

The Strange situation is a standardized event by Ainsworth and Wittig (1969), devised to understand critical development stages all humans go through. It was noted that young children can be classified as insecurely attached or securely attached with regard to certain relational situations.

Your level of secure attachment has an impact on your ability to cope with challenging situations. If we take a look at the work done by Dr. Sue Johnson (1998), and the application of Attachment Theory to practical couples therapies, like Emotionally Focused Therapy, we have the opportunity to see how patterns established early in life actually manifest in behaviors as adults.

As the quote at the top of this Blog implies, there are fundamental aspects of the human nervous system that once imparted at childhood, will pervasively act on our behaviors as we mature and grow old, that impact on our romantic and professional relationships. The good news is once you have realized there is an issue, there is a solution.

Timothy Hager

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